Updated: May 2
There are many factors that we experience in life that can send our wellbeing on an up and down roller-coaster, which is usually manageable. But it is important to know when the roller-coaster we are on is set on a track that might become derailed if some changes are not made.
Before we start, it is important to differentiate between healthy stress and unhealthily stress. Healthy stress is the kind that gets us up in the morning, makes us work hard and helps us to deliver the incredible events that we get to put on. You shouldn’t experience the below 3 red flags when it comes to healthy stress.
“All I want to do is sleep”
Sleep is essential to maintaining your wellbeing. If you are not getting enough sleep or you are getting too much sleep, it can have an impact on your mood, health and wellbeing.
We have all had those times where we feel we need a good rest, we need to switch off, and we want to sleep in. Those are perfectly normal emotions.
However, if it reaches a point where all you want to do is sleep it might be that the stress in your life needs to be addressed. If you are having dreams or nightmares about a certain work-related task, it might be that you could review your bedtime routine to ensure that your mind is switched off before falling asleep so that your sleep quality becomes better. You could try reading a book, doing a puzzle, meditation or mindfulness.
“I really don’t want to go”
When you become socially withdrawn, it is usually a sign of something else going on. It is, of course, fine to every now and again feel like you would rather have a night in on the sofa in your PJ’s! However, when the thought of not wanting to see friends, family, or do anything for that matter becomes a very common occurrence, it is important to be aware of these feelings and ask yourself what is really going on. Is it because you need some space? Is work too overwhelming?
It could also be that when you are in social situations, you might not actually be “present”. Is your mind on a completely different topic, are you really listening to the conversation, are you engaged in the conversations?
If you struggle to establish why you might be feeling this way, it is helpful to get a notepad and write your thoughts down and you will probably end up at the answer. Handwriting is shown to make us think and heal in a different way, hence why results are usually seen from this method.
“Why am I being so snappy?”
We all know the triggers that usually rubs us up the wrong way. By “snappiness”, I mean the conversations or comments that fall outside of the normal.
The up and down “bipolar” effect that comes from events is one that we can’t get away from due to the nature of how events work, but it is one that we can control and manage how we feel and react.
If you find yourself snapping over small things when you know yourself that your reaction is unreasonable, or if you are becoming agitated and angry, this should be a red flag. We cannot do our best work when we are in this state of mind either, which results in us becoming in a vicious cycle of becoming frustrated at ourselves as well.
It could be that you feel you are under too much pressure; you feel people are expecting too much of you or you perhaps don’t feel appreciated. Whatever it is you are feeling that is causing unhappiness, an open honest conversation usually solves the problem.
The essential thing to do is to address the source of the red flags appearing, what is the root cause, and what can be done to change that. Whether it is just an open and honest conversation with someone, delegating some tasks or changing your lifestyle, it is important that the route cause itself doesn’t continue in the background.
You may know that your red flags are slightly different to the above. It is important to take note of when you are starting to identify the warning signs so that you can adapt, be aware and take the actions you need to, to ensure that it doesn’t develop into something more.
I hope you’ve found this blog useful and it’s provided some helpful advice. If you have any questions, please contact us and we will come back to you as soon as we can.
Bernadette, founder of Event Professionals Journal